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5 reasons to block your ex (and 5 reasons not to)

Blocking your ex on social media can be a great way to move forward — but it’s not for everyone. Here are its pros and cons.

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Dating Expert James Mendoza October 6, 2022 • 7 minutes read
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Whether you just got out of a bad relationship or have been single for a while, the topic of blocking your ex pops up every now and then. One of the most polarizing ideas on the topic of relationships — many people hold varying opinions on whether or not to block your ex on social media.

Some people swear by it, while others think it’s a terrible idea. No matter which side you’re on, we’ve got ten great reasons for both blocking and not blocking your ex! Keep reading to see what might be best for you.

5 Reasons why you should block your ex

Here are five reasons you might want to consider blocking your ex across all social media platforms:

1. You want to move on and you keep stalking them

1. You want to move on and you keep stalking them

Moving on from a relationship can be difficult, but especially so if you find yourself constantly checking up on your ex and their social media platforms. We’ve all been there — you see their profile pop up once, and before you know it, you’re in a full-blown stalking session.

Snooping on your ex is a bad post-breakup habit that can be difficult to break, but it’s important to try if you want to move forward. Blocking them can help reduce the temptation to lurk on their profile and make it easier for you to focus on yourself.

2. They are toxic and bring out the worst in you

Perhaps your relationship with your ex was similar to the one you have with a close friend or family member you always avoid during reunions — full of arguments, drama, and toxicity. Just like you might distance yourself from a toxic friend or family member for your mental health, it can be helpful to do the same with an ex.

By blocking them, you’re taking away their ability to hurt you and giving yourself some much-needed peace of mind.

3. They cheated on you

3. They cheated on you

Getting cheated on is one of the most painful experiences a person can go through and it is often one of the common reasons people block their exes on social media. If your ex was the one who did you wrong, it’s completely understandable that you would want to block them from your life.

Not only does it hurt to see their face, but being constantly reminded of their betrayal can make it difficult for you to move on. Removing all traces of their existence on your social media feed can help make the healing process a little bit easier.

4. They’re playing mind games

Once your ex starts playing games with you, it can be hard to break free. When they constantly like your posts or send you messages, your feelings might start to get mixed up. You might find yourself getting drawn back into the relationship even though you know it’s not good for you.

In this case, blocking them might be a good idea so you can have some peace of mind. Exes that send mixed signals or play games can be very confusing, and taking a step back from the situation is crucial.

5. You don’t want to see them with someone else

5. You don't want to see them with someone else

If you’re trying to get over your ex but keep seeing pictures of them with other people, it can make the process a lot harder. Seeing someone you used to care about with someone else can trigger a lot of emotions — it can even be enough to hit your ego. You might think you’re over them, but seeing them happy with someone else can bring up a lot of feelings that you thought you had dealt with.

Blocking your ex can help you avoid these situations and protect your heart from getting hurt again.

If any of the above reasons resonate with you, then it might be a good idea to block your ex on social media. Blocking them can help protect you from negativity and allow you to focus on healing.

5 reasons why you should not block your ex

On the other hand, just because a relationship ends doesn’t mean that you should remove your ex from your friends or following list. Here are five reasons why you should not block your ex:

1. You might want to be friends someday

1. You might want to be friends someday

Having ended a relationship on good terms doesn’t mean that you’ll be friends right away, but it’s a possibility down the road. You share a lot of history and memories, so it’s natural to want to keep them in your life in some capacity.

You never know what might happen in the future, so if you think there’s a chance you might want to be friends with your ex someday, then it’s probably not a good idea to block them.

2. You don’t want to be seen as the bitter ex

Let’s face it, far more often than not, blocking your ex is always going to be perceived as a petty or bitter move. Especially if you ended on bad terms, being the bigger person and remaining friends (or at least cordial) with your ex can help you avoid this label.

By putting some time and effort into remaining friends with your ex, you’re also showing that you’re mature enough to handle the situation. This can be incredibly attractive to future partners.

3. You don’t want to look like you’re still hung up on your ex

3. You don't want to look like you're still hung up on your ex

When you’re trying to move on from your ex, the last thing you want is for them to think that you’re still hung up on them. This is especially true if you’re trying to date other people.

Not only will blocking your ex make you look bad, but it can also push your future partners away. After all, who wants to be with someone who is still obsessing over their ex?

4. You want another chance

Just because a relationship didn’t work out the first time doesn’t mean that it can’t work out the second (or third) time. After all, some people break up not because they want to but because circumstances outside their control make it impossible to stay together.

Maybe you were in a long-distance relationship that didn’t work out because you couldn’t handle the distance. But what if one of you is willing to move? In this case, remaining friends with your ex (or at least not blocking them) can grant you another shot at your relationship. 

5. You have forgiven them and found closure

5. You have forgiven them and found closure

Sometimes, even if a relationship didn’t end on the best of terms, you can still find closure and forgive your ex. This is often easier said than done, but it’s important to remember that everyone can make mistakes in relationships.

In some cases, you might even be able to find closure without ever speaking to your ex again. But if you want to remain friends with them or at least have the option to in the future, then there’s no reason to block them.

If any of these reasons resonate with you, then it might not be a good idea to block your ex.

Ultimately, it’s important to keep in mind that the decision is entirely up to you and what you think is best for your healing process. If you need some time away from your ex, then blocking them might be the best decision. But if you’re ready to move on and remain friends, then there’s no reason to block them.

Must-read books about exes

Exes can be a touchy subject. Whether you’re still hung up on them, or you’ve moved on, they’re often a topic that’s hard to avoid. If you’re in the former or latter camp, these books about exes might be for you. These titles explore everything from what it’s like to be dumped to how to deal with an ex who won’t go away.

  1. Flirting: How to Flirt for Women Wanting to Date a High-Value Man, Including Seductive Body Language Techniques and a Guide to Get Your Ex Back
  2. Relationship Goals: How to Win at Dating, Marriage, and Sex
  3. Don't Text Your Ex Happy Birthday: And Other Advice on Love, Sex, and Dating
  4. The Friends With Benefits Rulebook: How to Get in, Get Laid, and Get Out With Dignity (and Even a Relationship)
  5. She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman
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James Mendoza is a freelance writer who specializes in writing about relationships, marriage, and living happily as a single. After getting through two divorces and being cheated …

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