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10 signs your ex is truly done with you

If you're wondering whether or not your ex is ever coming back, there are a few obvious signs to look out for. We’ll be sharing those hard truths in this article. Let's say you've had a fight and things have been said and done that leaves you convinced that it's the end of the road for your relationship!

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Dating Expert Janet Smith October 6, 2022 • 6 minutes read
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If you’re wondering whether or not your ex is ever coming back, there are a few obvious signs to look out for. We’ll be sharing those hard truths throughout this article. Now, we’ve all been there. You and your significant other have had a disagreement, things have been said that can’t be unsaid, and you’re convinced that it’s the end of the road for your relationship.

But then, a few days (or weeks) later, they reach out and want to talk things out. And just like that, you’re back together again. But what if the situation is reversed? What if your ex seems like they’re never coming back? Here are ten signs that indicate they’re never going to come crawling back to you:

1. They are dating someone new

1. They are dating someone new

There’s an obvious sign your ex is never coming back when they’ve already moved on and are in a new relationship. This is probably the only sign that tells you they’re pretty much done with you. Of course, it doesn’t make it any less painful. If you see your ex with someone else, it’s a pretty clear indication that they’re never coming.

On the bright side, you can take it as a go signal to go on dates with new people too! Don’t let your ex have all the fun!

2. They cut all communication

Another sign is if your ex has completely cut off all communication with you. If they’re not returning your calls or texts, or if they’re blocking you on social media, it’s a pretty good indication that they don’t want to talk to you anymore.

Meaning they don’t plan to come crawling back to you any time soon— or at all for that matter! The best thing to do is remove all traces of them as well on your phone, laptop, and social media accounts. This way you too can get and start off on a clean slate for a new beau.

3. They ended the relationship

3. They ended the relationship

If your ex was the one who ended the relationship, it’s unlikely that they’ll ever come back. People don’t usually change their minds after breaking up with someone, so if they were the one who ended things, it’s probably best to just move on.

If you were in an on-and-off relationship and you were usually the one calling a time-out until now, that’s a big change in pattern! This means your ex has made some serious decisions. Ones that no longer include you in their life.

4. There was too much drama

If your relationship was filled with a lot of drama and fighting, it’s unlikely that your ex will ever want to come back to that. After all, why would anyone want to go back to a relationship that was full of arguments and stress?

If you and your ex can somehow make compromises then you can bet they might come back. But if you assess your whole relationship and can guess that there won’t be any major changes— chances are they are truly over the situation.

5. Someone cheated

5. Someone cheated

If you cheated on your ex or did something that caused them a lot of pain, it’s unlikely that they’ll ever forgive you and want to get back together. People can forgive small mistakes, but if you really hurt them, it’s doubtful that they’ll ever want to see you again.

Sure some similar situations work out, but that’s a very low chance! Not everyone’s going to come out like Beyonce and Jay-Z after a nasty third-party altercation. The only thing to do now is to learn from the lesson and move on to better ones!

6. They are distancing themselves from mutual contacts

If your ex has started to distance themselves from people you both know, that’s a sign! It could indicate they’re wanting to have space and need to be with other people that doesn’t remind them of you.

I mean, if they still hung out with your mutual friends, that could only spell memories and constant teasing for them. When they’re truly moving on from you, they are surely going to avoid all that.

7. They seem happier as a single person

7. They seem happier as a single person

If your ex is constantly talking about how happy they are without you, it’s a pretty clear sign that they don’t miss you and they’re never coming back. They’re probably trying to make you jealous or show you that they don’t need you anymore. Either way, it’s the first stage of grief and could possibly mean they really don’t want you back.

In this situation, try to be happy for them and find your own happiness alone too!

8. They are bad-mouthing you

If your ex is trashing you to all of their friends, it’s a bad but surefire sign. Not only does it mean that they don’t have any respect for you, but it also means that they don’t want to get back together. If they’re talking badly about you, it’s because they don’t want to see you again.

Look at it this way, if you cherished someone and plan to be with them forever, you’d want other people to do the same too! Bad-mouthing you are the complete opposite. This means it doesn’t matter to them how people perceive you because they no longer are or plan to be associated with you anyway.

9. They are dating someone different than you

9. They are dating someone different than you

This is related to the first sign that if they’re already dating, then they are not coming back! What makes this even worse is if your ex is dating someone who is the complete opposite of you. This means they don’t want to be reminded of anything related to you at all!

They’re ready for something completely different from what you both had. They’re probably dating this new person because they want something different from what you offered them.

10. They said they are not coming back

The final and most obvious sign that your ex is never coming back is if they’ve told you outright that they don’t want to get back together. If they’ve said it once, they’ll probably say it again, and there’s no point in trying to convince them otherwise. Just accept that it’s over and move on.

On the bright side, this is a good way to truly end things as the point has been clearly made. This means you don’t have to be confused at all and allows you to move on in peace.

So, what do you do if your ex is never coming back? You start moving on. We’ve got plenty of other articles on relationships and moving on that can help guide you through the process. The best way to speed up the healing process? Get started on your new life today.

The best breakup books that will help you heal

It’s hard to move on after a breakup. The pain, anger, and confusion can be all-consuming. If you’re struggling to recover from a breakup, here’s a list of titles that might help. From self-help books to novels, you’re sure to find something on this list that can help you get through this tough time.

  1. Getting Past Your Breakup: How to Turn a Devastating Loss into the Best Thing That Ever Happened to You
  2. How to get over anyone in few days: Breakups will never hurt like before
  3. Don't Text Your Ex Happy Birthday: And Other Advice on Love, Sex, and Dating
  4. Whole Again: Healing Your Heart and Rediscovering Your True Self After Toxic Relationships and Emotional Abuse
  5. After the Breakup: A Self-Love Journal: Prompts and Practices to Help You Get Over Your Ex
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Janet Smith is a freelance writer who writes about psychology, relationships, and dating. She has always been interested in understanding the human brain and how it affects our …

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