Outgoing, creative, and full of energy, ENFPs make for incredibly exciting romantic partners. While ENFPs (campaigners) are more common among women, they exist in all genders and possess the skills to make great partners. 1
Lucky enough to be in a relationship with an ENFP? Understanding different personality types can help you and your partner understand each other better. We’ll explore essential tips to help you navigate a relationship with an ENFP in this article.
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Why understanding MBTI is important in relationships
The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) is an assessment that divides personalities into sixteen distinct categories. Based on the work of psychologist Carl Jung, this tool helps people better understand themselves and their relationship dynamics.
The MBTI, developed by Isabel Briggs Myers and her mother, Katharine Cook Briggs, is based on four sets of traits. These are: 2
- Introversion (I) or Extraversion(E): If you’re an extrovert, you gain energy from being around people. If you’re an introvert, you get drained by too much socializing and need some alone time to recharge.
- Sensing (S) or Intuition (N): People who are sensing tend to process information through their five senses while those who are intuitive prefer to think deeply and interpret information symbolically.
- Thinking (T) or Feeling (F): Those who are thinkers base their decisions on logic while those who are feelers base them on emotions.
- Judging (J) or Perceiving (P): People with a judging outlook tend to make decisions quickly, whereas those with a perceiving outlook prefer to keep their options open for a longer time.
When it comes to relationships, understanding your personality type can help you better understand yourself and your partner. Likewise, understanding your partner’s personality helps you better interact with them and bridge any communication gaps between you.
ENFPs (Extraversion, Intuition, Feeling, Perceiving) are known for their outgoing and creative personalities. These types of people are often seen as social butterflies and are known to make friends easily. They are also great problem-solvers, driven by passion and enthusiasm.
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9 Tips for dating an ENFP personality
Understanding the ENFP personality is essential to having a happy, healthy relationship. Here are some tips to keep in mind when dating an ENFP:
1. Embrace spontaneity and adventure
If there’s one thing ENFPs love, it’s spontaneity and adventure. They’re naturally curious and enjoy exploring the world around them.
So don’t be afraid to suggest a spontaneous weekend getaway, an impromptu road trip, or just a night out of the ordinary. Your ENFP partner will love it! 3
2. Cultivate open communication
Honesty and openness are essential in any relationship. This is especially true for ENFPs, who thrive when their partners are willing to share their feelings. 4
Let your ENFP partner know that they can come to you with anything—big or small. Making sure they feel safe and secure will make for a much healthier relationship overall.
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3. Celebrate their creativity
Known for their creative and out-of-the-box thinking, ENFPs have a unique ability to see the world in an entirely different way. This could be in the form of art, writing, or any creative outlet.
Encourage your ENFP partner to explore their creative passions and celebrate them for everything they do. Offer support and understanding as they share their ideas with you. Your encouragement will go a long way! 5
4. Respect their need for independence
While ENFPs may enjoy socializing and being around people—as extroverts—they still need time to themselves from time to time. This could be anything from a few hours of alone time to an entire day of quiet reflection.
Let your ENFP partner have the time they need to recharge. Taking a break from time to time will help you both stay in tune with each other and your relationship.
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5. Support their passion projects
ENFPs are driven by passion and enthusiasm. They’re always looking for new ways to express themselves and bring something unique to the world.
Your ENFP partner may have a project they’re passionate about, such as starting their own business or pursuing a creative endeavor. While it can be scary to take risks, your support will make all the difference in helping them achieve their goals.
6. Celebrate your differences
In relationships, it’s normal to have different points of view and opinions. Don’t let this be a point of contention in your relationship. Respect and celebrate the differences between you and your partner—it’s what makes them unique!
ENFPs are naturally open-minded, so they will likely be more than willing to try something new. Appreciate the things that make your partner unique and use them as an opportunity for growth.
7. Spend quality time together
Quality time is essential in any relationship. Take the time to plan special dates or just sit down for a cup of coffee and talk about anything—the sky’s the limit! Find activities and moments that make you both happy.
ENFPs are drawn to meaningful conversations, so don’t be afraid to spend time talking about whatever interests you. Exploring your values and dreams together will help strengthen your relationship even further. 6
8. Stay grounded in reality
Because ENFPs have such an imaginative nature, they can sometimes get lost in daydreaming about the future. While it’s important to have dreams and goals, it’s also important to stay grounded in reality.
Remind your ENFP partner that it’s ok to dream big, but at the same time, staying focused on achievable goals is key. This will help keep your relationship—and your individual goals—on track.
9. Show affection and appreciation
ENFPs are known for their sensitive nature. Showing your love and appreciation will go a long way in letting them know that you care.
Compliments, gifts, or just simple acts of kindness can be enough to make your ENFP partner’s day! Know your partner’s love language and use that to make sure they feel appreciated. 7
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10. Have fun and use humor
At the end of the day, having fun is key to any relationship. ENFPs are full of life and energy, so take advantage of that and enjoy all the good times you can have together!
Go on a picnic, watch a movie, or find some other activity that you both enjoy—whatever it may be, don’t forget to have a good time and use humor in your relationship.
Laughing together strengthens the bond between you and your partner, and helps make for a more enjoyable experience overall! 8
Dating an ENFP can be a rewarding experience, but it takes effort to make sure that the relationship is healthy and fulfilling. With these tips in mind, you’ll be well on your way to understanding and appreciating this unique personality type!
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The truth about dating: Books you need to read
If you’re looking for advice on how to have more success when it comes to dating, then you’ll want to check out these reads. Each can teach you something different about the process, from being more confident in yourself to reading other people’s signals correctly. So whether you’re just starting or have been dating for a while and could use help, check out these titles.
- Boundaries in Dating: How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Relationships
- Love: The Psychology of Attraction: A Practical Guide to Successful Dating and a Happy Relationship
- Seriously, This Is Online Dating?: How to Love Yourself Harder and Date Smarter
- Single, Dating, Engaged, Married: Navigating Life and Love in the Modern Age
- Things You Should Already Know About Dating, You F*cking Idiot
- ↑ Kubale, V., Lobnikar, B., & Dvojmoč, M. (2022). The Myers-Briggs Personality Types of Veterinary Students and Their Animal Ethical Profiles in Comparison to Criminal Justice Students in Slovenia. Veterinary sciences, 9(8), 441. doi.org
- ↑ Woods, R. A., & Hill, P. B. (2022). Myers Brigg. In StatPearls. StatPearls Publishing.
- ↑ Harasymchuk, C., Walker, D. L., Muise, A., & Impett, E. A. (2021). Planning date nights that promote closeness: The roles of relationship goals and self-expansion. Journal of social and personal relationships, 38(5), 1692–1709.
- ↑ Zhou, Y., Wang, K., Chen, S., Zhang, J., & Zhou, M. (2017). An Exploratory Investigation of the Role of Openness in Relationship Quality among Emerging Adult Chinese Couples. Frontiers in psychology, 8, 382.
- ↑ Uchino, B. N., Cacioppo, J. T., & Kiecolt-Glaser, J. K. (1996). The relationship between social support and physiological processes: a review with emphasis on underlying mechanisms and implications for health. Psychological bulletin, 119(3), 488–531.
- ↑ Hogan, J. N., Crenshaw, A. O., Baucom, K. J. W., & Baucom, B. R. W. (2021). Time Spent Together in Intimate Relationships: Implications for Relationship Functioning. Contemporary family therapy, 43(3), 226–233. doi.org
- ↑ Mostova, O., Stolarski, M., & Matthews, G. (2022). I love the way you love me: Responding to partner's love language preferences boosts satisfaction in romantic heterosexual couples. PloS one, 17(6), e0269429. doi.org
- ↑ Driver, J. L., & Gottman, J. M. (2004). Daily marital interactions and positive affect during marital conflict among newlywed couples. Family Process, 43(3), 301-314.