11 signs that your relationship is over

We've all been there before - in a relationship that just doesn't seem to be going anywhere. If you're stuck in a rut and wondering if it's time to call it quits, here are 11 common signs that may help you make the decision.

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It can be tough to admit when a romantic relationship is no longer working, but sometimes there are signs that it’s time to move on. If you’re experiencing any of these key signs, it’s time for you to have a serious talk with your partner about the future of your relationship.

But remember, just because there are warning signs doesn’t mean that your relationship is doomed - oftentimes, it’s still possible to work things out if both partners are willing to try. Even a broken relationship can be mended, but only if both people involved are putting in the effort.

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1. You argue all the time

1. You argue all the time

One of the first signs that a relationship is in trouble is having a lot of fights about seemingly small things. Having an occasional argument or disagreement from time to time is normal in any relationship, but if you find yourselves arguing about the same thing over and over again with no resolution in sight, it might be a sign that something deeper is wrong.

It could be that you and your partner have different values or communication styles that are incompatible, or it could be a sign that one or both of you isn’t willing to work on the relationship anymore. If you can’t seem to find common ground anymore, it’s a bad sign, and it might be time to consider whether the relationship is right for you.

2. You’re unhappy

Are you happy? Be honest with yourself. If you’re not, it might be time to move on. It’s natural for the honeymoon phase to wear off after a while, but if you find yourself constantly feeling unhappy or unfulfilled in your relationship, that’s not a good sign.

It could be that your needs aren’t being met or that you and your partner have grown apart. Either way, unhappy couples can’t build a healthy and happy relationship.

If you’re not happy, check in with your feelings and try to find out what causes that feeling. Sometimes the feeling of unhappiness is not caused by our relationship but by other factors in our lives. Once you know what’s causing the unhappiness, you can work on fixing it.

If your unhappiness indeed comes from your current relationship, it’s time to have a talk with your partner about your feelings. If you’re both willing to work on things and try to make each other happy, there’s still hope for the relationship. But if not, it might be time to let go.

3. You don’t communicate

Bad communication is one of the main reasons why relationships fail. If you and your partner can’t communicate effectively, it will be very difficult to work on other issues in the relationship.

The communication between partners is a telltale sign of the overall health of a relationship. If you find yourself not wanting to talk to your partner about anything, or if all you ever do is argue when you do talk, that’s a big warning sign.

In a committed relationship, both partners should feel comfortable communicating their needs, wants, and thoughts to each other. If you don’t feel like you can do that with your partner, it’s a sign that the relationship is not as strong as it should be.

If this is the case, it’s likely that one or both of you have lost interest in the relationship. Try to identify where the communication problems are coming from, and see if there’s a way to fix them. If not, it might be time to call it quits.

4. You don’t have an emotional connection

4. You don't have an emotional connection

When you’re in a relationship, you should feel emotionally connected to your partner. This means feeling close to them, being able to confide in them, and trusting them. If you don’t have that emotional intimacy anymore, it might be a sign that the relationship is no longer working.

It’s possible to still care for someone deeply without feeling that emotional and physical intimacy, but it’s not healthy for a relationship. If you find yourself distancing yourself from your partner, or if you’re not interested in anything they have to say, it might be time to end things.

In a healthy relationship, both partners should feel emotionally connected. Emotional distance can cause all sorts of problems, so if you’re feeling it, it’s important to try to address the issue. If you can’t seem to find your way back to that emotional connection, it might be time to let go.

5. You don’t feel physically attracted to them

It’s normal for the physical attraction to fade over time, but if you don’t feel attracted to your partner anymore, that’s a problem. If you find yourself not wanting to be intimate with your partner or if you’re repulsed by the idea of being close to them, that’s a bad sign.

If this is the case, it’s likely that either your needs aren’t being met or that you’ve simply fallen out of love with your partner. In either case, it’s important to talk to your partner about how you’re feeling. If they’re willing to work on things with you, there’s still hope for the relationship. But if there’s no physical connection left, it might be time to move on.

6. There’s no trust

If you don’t trust your partner, the relationship is doomed. A lack of trust can come from many things, such as infidelity, lying, or simply not being honest with each other. If you can’t trust your partner, it will be very difficult to have a healthy and happy relationship.

Maybe there were some events in the past that caused you to lose trust in your partner. If that’s the case, you need to talk to them about it and try to rebuild that trust. It won’t be easy, but it’s definitely possible. It’s going to be a tough time, but if you can get through it together, the relationship will be stronger for it.

7. You dwell in the past

7. You dwell in the past

If you’re constantly talking about past happy memories instead of making new ones, the relationship is likely over. When you’re in a healthy relationship, you should be making new memories with your partner. If all you ever do is talk about the past, that’s a sign of a dead relationship.

It’s normal to reminisce about happy times every once in a while, but if that’s all you ever do, it’s time to question whether or not you’re in the right relationship. The biggest sign that a relationship is over is when you aren’t interested in making new memories together.

8. You don’t even care to try

If you’ve lost all interest in trying to save the relationship, it’s likely over. If you find yourself not caring whether or not the relationship survives, that’s a bad sign. It means that you’ve given up on the idea of being together and are simply going through the motions.

If this is the case, it’s time to have a serious conversation with your partner. Talk about why you’ve lost interest and see if there’s anything that can be done to fix it. If not, it might be time to call it quits.

In a caring relationship, both partners should be interested in trying to make things work. If you’ve given up, it’s time to think about whether or not the relationship is right for you.

9. You don’t spend much time together

Spending time together is a key part of any relationship, and if one of you or both of you is not making an effort to make time for each other, it’s a sign that your relationship is in trouble. It could be that one or both of you is too busy with work or other commitments.

If that’s the case, try to find time to spend together on the weekends or even during the weekdays. Make dinner together, watch a movie, or just go for a walk.

It’s important to have quality time together, even if you’re both busy. If you can’t seem to make time for each other, it might be because you’re not prioritizing the relationship. If that’s the case, it might be time to reconsider your relationship.

10. You have a gut feeling

10. You have a gut feeling

Often times when we have a gut feeling that something is wrong in our relationship, it means that there is actually something wrong. However, that’s not always the case. Sometimes we can just be overthinking things, or our intuition might be wrong.

If you have a gut feeling that your relationship is over, it’s worth exploring that feeling a little bit more. Talk to your partner about how you’re feeling and see if they have any insights into why you’re getting that feeling.

11. You’re happier when you’re not together

Are you happier when you’re not with your partner? If the answer is yes, it’s a bad sign. Often times when we’re in a bad relationship, we’re not happy. We might be stressed out or constantly fighting with our partners. It can go so far that our relationship is taking a toll on our mental health.

If you’re happier when you’re not with your partner, it’s a sign that things have gone too far. It might be time to end the relationship and move on. If you still want to work on the relationship, it’s important to talk to your partner about how you’re feeling and maybe seek professional advice from a relationship therapist.

If you’re experiencing any of these signs, it might be time to rethink your relationship. If you’re not happy and you don’t see a way to fix things, it’s probably time to end things. Talk to your partner about how you’re feeling and see if there’s anything that can be done. Just remember, only you know what’s best for you and your relationship!

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Janet Smith

Janet Smith is a freelance writer who writes about psychology, relationships, and dating. She has always been interested in understanding the human brain and how it affects our …

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