Relationship rules

Are you in a relationship and want to make sure it lasts? Or, do you just want to know what you can do to create a healthy and long-lasting relationship? In this blog post, we will go over 11 basic relationship rules that you should follow.

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Whether you are in a new relationship or have been together for years, there are basic rules that always apply if you want a long-lasting relationship. Of course, every couple is different, and some rules may not work for you, but these are general guidelines that will help you and your partner create a successful and healthy relationship.

Without further ado, here are 11 healthy relationship rules you should follow if you want a long-term relationship to last:

1. Don’t take your partner for granted

Make sure to show your appreciation for your partner, whether it’s through words, actions, or simple gestures. It’s easy to fall into the trap of taking our partners for granted, especially if we’ve been together for a long time. We get comfortable and complacent and stop doing the things that made us fall in love in the first place.

You know your partner will always be there for you, so you stop doing the little things that made them feel special. But don’t take your partner for granted! Those little things are what keep the spark alive in a relationship. It will make your relationship stronger and happier.

2. Show affection to your partner

Acts of affection are important in any relationship. They make your partner feel loved, appreciated, and valued. Plus, they help to build a strong emotional connection between you two.

So make sure that you regularly show your affection for your partner in both big and small ways. Hold hands, give them a hug or kiss, tell them that you love them. It’s a way of showing them that you love and care about them, and it can help to build a stronger, more intimate bond between you.

Of course, it’s important to find the right balance - too much affection can be overwhelming. Find out what your partner likes and needs, and go from there.

3. Don’t compare yourself to other couples

Comparing yourself to other couples is never a good idea. It can make you feel insecure, jealous, and resentful. Plus, it’s a surefire way to start arguments with your partner.

Every couple has different ideas about relationships. There is no right or wrong way to be in a relationship - what works for one couple may not work for another. Roads to contentment begin with acceptance of the fact that every couple is unique. So instead of comparing yourselves to other couples, focus on what works for you and your partner.

4. Make time for your partner

Spending quality time with your partner is essential for a happy and healthy relationship. It’s a chance for you to connect with each other on a deeper level, without any distractions.

So make sure that you set aside some time every week to spend with your partner, even if it’s just an hour or two. Turn off your phones, put away your work, and focus on each other. Talk, laugh, and just enjoy each others' company. These quality time moments are what will keep your relationship strong and lasting.

Here are some ideas for quality time together:

5. Be honest with each other

Honesty is key in any relationship. You need to be able to trust your partner, and that can only happen if you are both honest with each other. Fair relationships are based on equality, respect, and trust.

Of course, there will be times when you don’t want to tell your partner the whole truth. Maybe you’re afraid of their reaction, or you think it might hurt them. But honesty is always the best policy in a relationship. It’s better to deal with the consequences of honesty than the betrayal of lying.

If you have a disagreement, be honest about how you feel. If you’re feeling down, be honest about it. If you’re tempted to cheat, be honest about that too. It’s not always easy, but it’s the only way to have a truly healthy and happy relationship.

6. Communicate effectively

Effective communication means being clear, concise, and honest. It also means listening carefully to what your partner has to say and trying to see things from their perspective. It’s how you share your thoughts and feelings with each other, and it’s essential for problem-solving.

One tip for communicating effectively is to use “I” statements. For example, “I feel upset when you stay out late without telling me where you are.” This allows your partner to understand how you’re feeling without placing any blame on them.

It’s also important to be aware of nonverbal communication. Things like facial expressions, body language, and tone of voice can all send a message that words cannot. So make sure that you’re always paying attention to your partner, and vice versa.

Communication is never easy, but it’s worth the effort. With effective communication, you can solve any problem that comes up in your relationship.

7. Be a good listener

Listening is just as important as talking in a relationship. It’s how you show your partner that you care about them and their thoughts and feelings. Plus, it’s essential for effective communication (see above).

A good listener is patient, attentive, and open-minded. They make an effort to understand what their partner is saying, and they don’t judge or criticize them. They also don’t try to fix the problem or give their partner advice. That’s not their job.

Just by listening, you’re showing your partner that you care about them and that you want to make things work. So make sure that you always take the time to listen to what they have to say.

8. Respect each other

Respect each other’s needs and feelings. It’s one of the most important relationship rules. If you don’t respect your partner, then the relationship will quickly fall apart.

Respect is shown in many ways: through words, actions, and decisions. It’s about valuing your partner for who they are and recognizing their worth. It means treating them with kindness and understanding, even when you don’t agree with them.

Respect is also about giving each other space and privacy when needed. It’s about listening to each other and valuing each other’s opinions. And it’s about being considerate of each other’s feelings, even when you’re upset.

9. Don’t rely on your partner to make you happy

No one can make you happy except you. Your partner can contribute to your happiness, but they are not responsible for it. You need to find happiness within yourself and then share that with your partner.

If you rely on your partner to make you happy, then you’re setting yourself up for disappointment. You’re putting all the responsibility for your happiness on their shoulders, and that’s not fair to them.

It’s important to remember that you are in control of your own happiness. So find things that make you happy and enjoy them! Whether it’s spending time with your friends, going for a walk, reading a book, or watching your favorite movie, make sure to do something that brings you joy.

10. Don’t try to change your partner

Appreciate your partner’s quirks and differences instead of trying to change them. It’s one of the most important relationship rules. After all, you fell in love with them for who they are, not who you wanted them to be.

Trying to change your partner will only create resentment and conflict. It’s also a sign that you’re not accepting them for who they are. If you can’t accept them, then the relationship is not going to work.

Instead of trying to change your partner, focus on appreciating their differences. Embrace what makes them unique and special. This will help you to build a stronger, more loving relationship.

11. Be supportive and understanding

Be there for your partner when they need you. Life is full of ups and downs, and it’s important to be there for each other during the tough times.

Being supportive doesn’t mean that you have to agree with everything your partner does. It just means that you’re there for them, no matter what. You listen to them, offer your support, and give them your time and attention.

Being understanding does not mean that you have to actually understand why your partner is upset. It just means that you’re aware of their feelings and willing to listen to them. Sometimes it’s impossible to understand what someone is going through, but that doesn’t mean you can’t support them.

Offer your support and understanding freely, and your partner will appreciate it. It will help strengthen your relationship and make both of you happier in the long run.


By following these basic relationship rules, you can build a strong, healthy, and happy relationship with your partner. So take the time to listen to each other, respect each other, and be there for each other. These are the foundation of a solid relationship. And if you can do these things, then you’re on your way to a lasting and fulfilling relationship.

Are you interested in building and maintaining a healthy relationship? Here is a list of great books that can help you achieve that goal:

  1. The Couple's Activity Book: 70 Interactive Games to Strengthen Your Relationship by Crystal Schwanke
  2. Questions for Couples Journal: 400 Questions to Enjoy, Reflect, and Connect with Your Partner by Maggie Reyes
  3. Mindful Relationship Habits: 25 Practices for Couples to Enhance Intimacy, Nurture Closeness, and Grow a Deeper Connection by S.J. Scott & Barrie Davenport
  4. Couples Bucket List: 101 Fun, Engaging Dating Ideas by Dr. Carol Morgan, PhD

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