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What to do if you think you're girlfriend is cheating

In a monogamous relationship, it can be difficult to come to terms with the fact that your partner might be cheating on you. In this blog post, we'll give you tips on what to do if you think you're girlfriend is cheating on you.

Dating Expert David Hall December 19, 2022 • 6 minutes read
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Infidelity is one of the most painful things that can happen in a committed relationship. If you think your girlfriend is cheating on you, it’s important to take some action. We’ll give you advice on how to deal with this difficult situation and have a healthier relationship.

There are many signs of cheating. However, in this article, we’ll only focus on what to do when you feel like or suspect that your girlfriend is cheating. We will talk about the signs of infidelity in another article.

If you’re looking for more relationship advice, check out our complete guide!

1. Don’t jump to conclusions

There could be a number of reasons why she’s been acting strange. So don’t panic - take a deep breath and try to stay calm. It’s possible that she’s going through something difficult, and she just needs some space. Maybe she’s been working long hours and is just tired. It could be anything - so don’t automatically assume that her behavior means she’s cheating.

There could be many reasons for her sudden behavior change. It may not have to do with you at all. If you need more clarification, talk to her about it. Ask her what’s been going on and see if she’ll open up to you. Talking with your partner increases the chance of overcoming challenges in your relationship. [1]

2. Make a “reality check”

Why are you thinking that she’s cheating on you? Is there evidence to support your suspicions? If you’re just feeling insecure, then you might be projecting your own fears onto her. In this case, the best thing to do is talk to her about how you’re feeling and see if she can help ease your worries.

If you indeed have evidence that she’s been cheating on you, then you need to take action. However, if you don’t have any concrete evidence, it might be best to try and find out more before doing anything drastic.

3. Check in with your feelings

What is your gut feeling telling you? If you have a feeling that your girlfriend is cheating on you, then it’s important to pay attention to that feeling. Trust your intuition - it might be trying to tell you something.

If you’re feeling anxious, paranoid or just generally unhappy, those are all signs that something might be wrong in your relationship. It’s possible that your girlfriend is cheating on you, but it’s also possible that there are other issues in the relationship that need to be addressed.

4. Talk to her about your concerns and listen to what she has to say

This is probably the most important thing you can do. If you have concerns that your girlfriend is cheating on you, the best way to find out is to talk to her about it. Express how you’re feeling and see if she’ll open up to you. If she doesn’t want to talk, that’s a sign that there might be something wrong.

It’s important to listen to what she has to say. If she assures you that she isn’t cheating, then you should trust her. In a healthy relationship, both partners should be able to trust each other. If you can’t, then there might be bigger issues in the relationship that need to be addressed.

If she admits to cheating on you, then you need to decide what you want to do about it. Do you want to try and work things out? Or do you think it’s time to end the relationship?

5. Don’t spy on her or follow her around - that will only make things worse

If you’re worried about your girlfriend cheating on you, the last thing you should do is spy on her or follow her around. Doing that will only make her feel paranoid and uncomfortable. It will also damage your relationship even further.

Trust is an important part of any relationship. If you can’t trust your partner, then the relationship is likely to fail. If you’re finding it difficult to trust your girlfriend, then you need to talk to her about it. [2]

6. Seek professional help if you can’t deal with the situation yourself

It might be a good idea to talk with a mental health professional if you’re finding it difficult to deal with the situation. They can help you figure out how to best deal with your anxiety and trust issues.

If your relationship is on the brink of ending, then you might want to seek a relationship specialist. A professional can help you communicate better and work through any relationship issues you might have. Therapy can help you to have a stronger relationship with your girlfriend if you decide to stay together. [3]

7. Infidelity must not be the end of your relationship

Although infidelity can be a difficult thing to overcome, it’s not necessarily the end of your relationship. If you and your girlfriend are willing to work through the issues, then you can come out stronger on the other side.

It will require a lot of patience, communication, and effort, but it’s definitely possible to repair a relationship after cheating has occurred.

If you think your girlfriend is cheating on you, it’s important to trust your gut and talk to her about it. If she denies it, try to listen to what she has to say and trust her. However, if she admits to cheating, then you’ll need to decide if you want to work things out or end the relationship.

Secrets to a healthy relationship: Books every couple should read

It's no secret that a healthy relationship is key in a long-lasting and fulfilling relationship. This list of books about healthy relationships will help you learn how to communicate better, resolve conflict, and deepen your connection. From classic self-help books to more modern reads, these titles will give you the tools you need to build a strong and healthy relationship.

  1. Boundaries in Dating: How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Relationships
  2. Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship
  3. Love More, Fight Less: Communication Skills Every Couple Needs: A Relationship Workbook for Couples
  4. Infidelity Recovery Workbook for Couples: Tools and Exercises to Rebuild Your Relationship
  5. Healthy Me, Healthy Us: Your Relationships Are Only as Strong as You Are


  1. Rose-Greenland, F., & Smock, P. J. (2013). Living together unmarried: What do we know about cohabiting families? In G. W. Peterson & K. R. Bush (Eds.), Handbook of marriage and the family (3 ed., pp. 255-273). New York, NY: Springer.
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  3. DfE. (2019). Relationships education, relationships and sex education (RSE) and health education.
  4. WILLI, J. (1997). The Significance of Romantic Love for Marriage. Family Process, 36(2), 171–182.
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David Hall is a self-taught dating expert who works as a freelance writer to help people improve their love lives. He has always been interested in dating, physical attraction, and …

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