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13 amazing flirting tips for lesbians you need to know!

Flirting for lesbians can be a bit different. These 13 flirting tips for lesbians will show you how it's done the easy way!

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Dating Expert Janet Smith September 27, 2022 • 7 minutes read
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Flirting is an important part of any romantic relationship, and it’s no different for lesbians. If you’re interested in someone, it’s important to let them know in a way that is both fun and attractive.

But there are some things to look out for when you’re flirting with another woman. Today, we’ll show you some great tips on how to flirt with another woman.

1. Make sure she is interested in women

1. Make sure she is interested in women

You don’t want to waste your time flirting with a straight girl. There’s nothing wrong with being straight, of course, but if you’re looking for a romantic partner, you’ll want to make sure that she is also interested in women.

The best way to do this is to test the waters with subtlety or just to ask her directly. You can also try to gauge her interest by seeing how she reacts to other women. If she seems interested in them, there’s a good chance she’s a lesbian or bi.

But there’s also nothing wrong if she’s straight and you two get along very well. Maybe you can be friends! Don’t drop her just because you two don’t have the same sexual orientation.

If you want to look for clues on whether she’s a lesbian or not, this guide on other words for gay might be helpful! Drop some of them casually and see how she reacts!

2. Be hot

This is an obvious one, but you’d be surprised how many women don’t realize that they need to put their best foot forward when flirting. If you want to attract another woman, you need to take care of yourself.

This means being well-groomed, dressing up in something you feel sexy and comfortable in, and making sure your body language is confident. So, don’t approach her looking like a slob.

Everybody can be hot! And it’s not just about appearance. Being hot also means having a great personality. Be confident, be yourself, and let your light shine.

3. Be confident

Confidence is key when it comes to flirting. If you’re not confident, it will be hard to flirt successfully. Remember, body language is important. Stand up straight, make eye contact, and smile.

These things will show the person you’re interested in that you’re confident and sure of yourself. And if you’re not feeling confident, fake it ’til you make it!

4. Show her you’re interested

4. Show her you're interested

If you want to flirt with someone, you need to let them know that you’re interested. When you’re talking to her, face her directly and make sure there’s no barrier between the two of you, like a table or another person.

The best thing to show interest is to tell her with your eyes that you think she’s hot. Look at her lips, make prolonged eye contact, and give her a smile that says, “I want to kiss you.”

5. Make eye contact

Eye contact is one of the most important things when flirting with someone. It shows that you’re interested and confident in what you’re doing. You’re also showing the other woman that you’re engaged in the conversation.

You can also try smiling at the person you’re interested in, which is always a good ice-breaker.

6. Smile

Smiling is such an important part of flirting – it makes you seem approachable and friendly. It also shows that you’re interested in the other person.

But you can even overdo smiling, so don’t go overboard. A genuine smile is always the best way to go. And if you’re not naturally a smiley person, don’t worry! Just practice in the mirror until it feels natural.

7. Keep the conversation flowing

7. Keep the conversation flowing

When you’re talking to someone you’re attracted to, make sure to keep the conversation flowing and interesting. Ask her questions, and be an active listener. This will make her feel more comfortable with you and interested in what you have to say.

But you mustn’t forget that being interesting also means being interested. You both should pro-actively listen to each other.

8. Touch her

Physical contact is a great way to show someone you’re interested in them. It doesn’t have to be anything too forward – an occasional simple touch on the arm or shoulder will do.

It shows that you’re attracted to her and want to be close to her. But please, make sure she’s comfortable with it first! You don’t want to make anyone feel uncomfortable.

9. Be flirty

This one is important – you need to be flirty! This means being playful, fun, and a little bit naughty. If you can make her laugh, you’re on the right track.

But don’t be too over-the-top or crude. There’s a fine line between being flirty and being sleazy, and you don’t want to cross it.

10. Tease her

10. Tease her

Teasing is a great way to flirt with someone. It shows that you’re not taking yourself too seriously and that you’re confident enough to joke around. But make sure your teasing is good-natured and not mean-spirited.

Many people think that teasing is a sign of flirting, but it can also be a sign of friendship. If you want to make sure she knows you’re interested, try adding a little bit of sexual tension to your teasing.

11. Compliment her

Everybody loves compliments, so this is an easy way to score points with someone you’re attracted to. Just make sure your compliments are genuine and specific.

Don’t just say, “you’re hot.” Instead, try something like, “I love your sense of style” or “your haircut suits you so well”! But even better than compliments about her appearance are compliments about her personality.

These kinds of compliments show that you’re really paying attention to her and that you appreciate who she is as a person.

12. Be yourself

This is the most important tip of all. You must be yourself! If you try to be someone you’re not, it will be obvious and the other person will soon lose interest.

It’s better to just be yourself from the beginning and let the chips fall where they may. After all, you’re looking for someone who likes you for who you are, not for who you pretend to be.

13. Be respectful

13. Be respectful

Last but not least, always be respectful. This goes for both online and offline interactions. Never say or do anything that would make the other person feel disrespected.

And if she doesn’t want to take things further, don’t push it. Just back off and move on. There is plenty of other fish in the sea, and you don’t want to waste your time with someone who isn’t interested.

Flirting with someone you’re attracted to can be a lot of fun. Just remember to be confident, keep the conversation flowing, and be yourself!

If you follow these tips, you’re sure to score some points with the hot girl you have your eye on.

We hope you found these tips helpful. Good luck out there, and happy flirting!

Must-read queer books to add to your reading list

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  3. Beyond Monogamy: Polyamory and the Future of Polyqueer Sexualities
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Janet Smith is a freelance writer who writes about psychology, relationships, and dating. She has always been interested in understanding the human brain and how it affects our …

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