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So, there is this one girl you adore. She’s pretty, she’s cute, and you feel this sudden urge to make her like you back. But you don’t know how. You’ve tried all of the conventional methods, but they never seem to work. They always leave you feeling rejected and alone.
So, how do you make her like you back – or even better: chase you? Well, it’s not easy, but don’t worry. We’re here to help you out. In this article, we will teach you exactly how to do it. At the end of the day, you’ll definitely stand more of a chance if you follow our simple tips.
1. Mind your appearance
The probably most important thing of all: Your appearance. After all, we all know that girls (just like guys) judge a book by its cover. It’s the first thing you see of a person – and humans are extremely visual beings. So, if you want her to chase you, you should definitely make sure that your appearance is up to par.
Of course, this doesn’t mean that you should spend hours in front of the mirror every day or that you should buy a whole new wardrobe. But it does mean that you should take care of yourself and that you should dress well. Trust me; if you do, she’ll definitely start to chase you!
So, make sure you’re well-groomed and well-dressed around her. A woman loves it more than everything else when a guy is making an effort for her, especially visually.
2. Talk to her
Don’t be afraid to start up a conversation. How should she know you’re interested if she never actually talked to you? So, take the initiative and walk up to her. It doesn’t matter if you don’t know what to say at first. Just start with a simple hello and see where the conversation takes you from there.
You can also try asking her questions about her day or commenting on something that’s happening around you. The important thing is that you talk to her!
Of course, this doesn’t sound very easy, especially if you’re a rather shy person. But the worst thing that could happen is she doesn’t like you back – but at least you tried!
But we won’t let that happen, right? Just make sure to follow the next tips as well to keep the conversation going!
If you need some in-depth tips on how to talk to your crush, head here!
3. Compliment her
Everyone loves compliments. And this is especially true with girls. They love to hear how pretty they are or how great their sense of style is. But beware, though: you don’t want to overdo it. Too many compliments in a row might make you seem desperate.
So, start with one compliment and see how she reacts. If she seems to like it, you can give her another one. A simple “you look lovely today” will suffice more often than not.
And it’s also of utmost importance that your comment isn’t too superficial. It should be something that you actually mean, and that isn’t too generic. Make some effort.
4. Make her laugh
Laughter is the best medicine – and it also happens to be one of the best ways to make someone like you. After all, who doesn’t want to be around someone who makes them laugh all the time?
So, try to crack some jokes (but not too dirty ones, of course) or just be funny in general. This will definitely make her want to talk to you more often!
And even if you’re not the funniest person in the world, don’t worry. Just being able to make her smile is already a great accomplishment.
5. Be interested in her
Ask her about herself. Most people love talking about themselves when someone is truly interested in them. It’s a great way to get to know her better, and it will make her feel special.
Of course, you shouldn’t just ask her surface-level questions like “what’s your favorite color?”. Instead, try to ask her more probing questions that will actually give you some insights into her life. For example, you could ask her about her passions or what she likes to do in her free time.
You can also ask her about her opinions on certain topics. This will show her that you’re interested in her thoughts and that you respect her opinion – even if you don’t necessarily agree with it.
6. Be confident
Confidence is key – in every aspect of life. But especially when it comes to making someone like you. After all, who wants to be around someone who is always doubting themselves?
So, make sure that you project confidence when you talk to her. This doesn’t mean that you should act like you’re the best thing since sliced bread, of course. But it does mean that you should believe in yourself and your abilities.
And if you’re not a very confident person, don’t worry. Just fake it until you make it! Eventually, it will become second nature to you.
7. Don’t be around her too often
How should she be chasing you when you’re always the one who’s chasing her? Makes sense, right? So, if you want her to chase you, you should make yourself a bit scarce.
Of course, this doesn’t mean that you should completely ignore her or that you should never talk to her again. But it does mean that you shouldn’t be around all the time. But when you’re around, she should feel very good around you. That way, she might start craving your presence.
Let me give an example: Chocolate cake is great, right? But what makes it even greater is that it’s special. You don’t get to have chocolate cake every day. And if you would, you’ll soon get tired of it. But because you don’t have it that often, you start to crave it more and more. And when you finally get a piece, it tastes even better than before. The same principle applies to people. And in this example, you’re the chocolate cake!
So, be a chocolate cake, my friend!
8. Be a challenge
Everybody loves themself a good challenge from time to time. And this also goes for girls. They love it when a guy is a challenge – because it gives them something to strive for.
Of course, this doesn’t mean that you should be a douche or that you should play hard to get. But it does mean that you shouldn’t give her everything she wants right away. (If you’re wondering, that’s probably the biggest reason why girls “like” “badboys” – because they’re a challenge. But you can be a challenge without being a douche!)
For example, you could tell her that she has to work for your attention. Or you could make her wait a bit before you respond to her texts. This will definitely make her want you more!
9. Be mysterious
Mystery is always an attractive quality in a person. So, if you can be a little bit mysterious, she’ll definitely start chasing you.
Of course, being mysterious doesn’t mean that you should be completely evasive and that you should never tell her anything about yourself. But it does mean that you should keep her guessing a little bit. For example, you could tell her that you have a “secret hobby” that you’re not going to reveal just yet. Or you could be vague about certain aspects of your life.
This will definitely make her more curious about you – and it will make her want to chase you even more!
10. Get her chasing you by making her jealous
Sometimes, the best way to get someone to chase you is by making them a little bit jealous. And this definitely goes for girls. If she sees that other people are interested in you, she’ll start to wonder why. And she might even start to think that she’s missing out on something.
Of course, you should be careful with this one. You don’t want to make her too jealous, of course. But a little bit of healthy jealousy can definitely work in your favor.
11. Keep your romantic feelings for her a secret at first
If you tell her right away that you’re interested in her, she might not feel the need to chase you. After all, if she knows that you like her, she might think that she doesn’t have to do anything to win your affections.
So, it’s always a good idea to keep your romantic feelings for her a secret at first. That way, she’ll definitely start to wonder why you’re not making a move – and she might even start to think that you’re not interested in her. And that will definitely make her want to chase you!
12. Get close to her friends
Getting close to her friends is always a good idea. After all, if her friends like you, she’ll definitely start to see you in a more positive light. And she might even start to think that you’re a good guy – which is definitely something that will make her want to chase you!
So, try to get close to her friends. Talk to them, make them laugh, and try to make a good impression. If you can do that, she’ll definitely start to see you in a new light – and she might even start to chase you herself!
13. Try to be the one who ends hangouts
If you’re always the one who ends a hangout first, she’ll definitely start to wonder why. After all, if you’re interested in her, why would you want to leave her? And she might even start to think that you’re not interested in her.
So, try to be the one who ends a hangout first. Of course, you don’t want to do this all the time – but doing it once in a while will definitely make her wonder why you’re not sticking around. And that will definitely make her want to chase you!
14. Be the prize
This one’s simple: If you want her to chase you, you have to be the prize. In other words, she should feel lucky to be with you – not the other way around.
Of course, this doesn’t mean that you should be arrogant or that you should act like you’re better than her. But it does mean that you should believe in yourself and your worth. And it also means that you should make her work for your attention and your affections.
If you can do this, she’ll definitely start to see you as the prize – and she’ll want to chase you even more!
15. Live your own life
Nothing radiates more confidence than a guy who’s living his own life. After all, if you’re busy with your own hobbies and your own goals, she’ll definitely start to see you as a catch. And she might even start to think that she’s lucky to be with you!
So, make sure that you’re living your own life. Don’t be afraid to pursue your own hobbies and your own interests. And don’t be afraid to do things without her – she’ll definitely start to see you as a confident, independent guy who’s worth chasing.
These are just a few tips on how to make a girl chase you. If you can follow these tips, you’ll definitely be able to get the girl of your dreams chasing after you!
Need even more tips and want to make her fall in love with you deeply? These easy steps will show you how to make your crush fall in love with you!
The truth about dating: Books you need to read
If you’re looking for advice on how to have more success when it comes to dating, then you’ll want to check out these reads. Each can teach you something different about the process, from being more confident in yourself to reading other people’s signals correctly. So whether you’re just starting or have been dating for a while and could use help, check out these titles.
- Boundaries in Dating: How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Relationships
- Love: The Psychology of Attraction: A Practical Guide to Successful Dating and a Happy Relationship
- Seriously, This Is Online Dating?: How to Love Yourself Harder and Date Smarter
- Single, Dating, Engaged, Married: Navigating Life and Love in the Modern Age
- Things You Should Already Know About Dating, You F*cking Idiot
David Hall
David Hall is a self-taught dating expert who works as a freelance writer to help people improve their love lives. He has always been interested in dating, physical attraction, and …
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