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Many people have already been ghosted, or at least feel like they have been. It’s not a good feeling. You think you’re doing well in a relationship, and suddenly, the other person just disappears without a trace. All of your texts go unanswered, your calls go straight to voicemail, and you start to feel like you’re being ignored. It sucks.
But are you really being ghosted? Because it’s a question we’ve all asked ourselves at one point or another: how many days is ghosting?
Today, we’ll shed some light upon the ghosts that haunt us by taking a look at the lives of those who have been affected by it. We’ll also explore the bad behaviors that often lead to ghosting, and how to avoid being ghosted yourself.
What is ghosting?
Before we can talk about how many days ghosting is, we should clarify what ghosting is and what it is not. Ghosting is the act of suddenly disappearing from someone’s life without any explanation or warning.
It’s often done in relationships, but it can happen in any situation where you have an emotional connection with someone, a friendship or a family bond, for example.
Ghosting is not the same as taking a break from someone, though the two can sometimes be confused. When you take a break from someone, you typically tell them that’s what you’re doing and why. You still communicate with them, even if it’s just to say that you need some time apart. Ghosting is a way of breaking off a relationship without any communication whatsoever.
Also, it’s not considered ghosting when the other person isn’t immediately replying to your messages. Suppose you’ve only been dating for a week, and they haven’t replied to your text in two or three days; that’s not ghosting. If it continues for over a week, well, then you’ve probably been ghosted.
But it also really depends on the phone habits a person has or on their personality in general. They’re probably just busy, don’t feel well, or are just very reclusive. We all have our lives and fights to worry about. It’s only ghosting when the person completely disappears that it can be considered ghosting.
But you know the other person better than I do, so follow your gut feeling, but don’t jump to conclusions.
How many days is ghosting?
Now that we know what ghosting is, let’s answer the question: how many days is ghosting? Unfortunately, there’s no easy answer. The length of time that someone can get away with not speaking to you after you’ve developed an emotional connection can vary depending on the lives of those involved.
For example, if you’re in a long-distance relationship and you don’t hear from your significant other for a week, that’s not ghosting. They might just be busy, or their phone might have died. (But on the other hand, they would have probably found another way to contact you via their laptop, for example.)
But if you live in the same city and you go on two dates with someone, and then they suddenly stop replying to your texts and calls for over a week, then they’re probably ghosting you. It’s more likely because they live close by, and there’s no excuse for not being able to get in touch with you.
But, as already mentioned earlier, it really depends on the person. Some people are just a bit more introverted and reclusive and don’t even notice when they’ve gone MIA for a week. They don’t mean bad most of the time.
So, as a rule of thumb, if you don’t hear from someone for a week or two after you’ve developed an emotional connection, it’s probably ghosting. But of course, there are always exceptions to the rule. Before jumping to conclusions, ask them if everything is alright.
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Why do people ghost?
There are many reasons why someone might choose to ghost someone else. Maybe they’re not ready for a relationship, or they’re just not that into you and don’t know how to break it to you gently. Or maybe they met someone else, and they don’t want to lead you on.
Or, in some cases, ghosting can be a way of coping with anxiety or depression. If someone is struggling with their mental health, they might find it difficult to maintain relationships and end up ghosting the people they care about.
Whatever the reason, ghosting is generally considered to be bad behavior. It’s often seen as a cowardly way of ending a relationship because it avoids any kind of confrontation. It can also be very hurtful to the person who’s being ghosted.
If you’ve been ghosted, it’s understandable to feel upset, confused, and even angry. But it’s important to remember that it’s not personal. The person who ghosted you is probably going through something themselves, and they’re not able to deal with the situation in a healthy way.
What to do if you accidentally ghosted someone?
If you’re worried that you might be ghosting someone, there are some things you can do to try and improve the situation. First of all, it’s important to be honest with yourself. Why do you ghost someone? Is it because you’re not ready for a relationship or because you’re struggling with your mental health?
If it’s the latter, then it might be a good idea to seek professional help. A therapist can help you deal with the anxiety or depression that might be causing you to ghost people. Ghosting is often a coping mechanism that should be dealt with in a more healthy way.
If you’re not struggling with your mental health, then try to be more mindful of your social interactions. If you notice that you’re starting to pull away from someone, have a direct conversation with them about it. Let them know that you need some space and explain why.
If you’re not sure why you’re ghosting someone, try to take a step back and assess your feelings. Are you just not that into them? Or are you afraid of getting hurt? Once you know what the problem is, you can try to address it head-on.
But no matter what the reason is, try to communicate with the other person. Ghosting is something very hurtful that can traumatize people a lot, especially if your emotional connection was very strong. So if you do it accidentally, make sure to apologize and try to make things right.
But some people are just built differently when it comes to social things and don’t ghost on purpose. Many don’t feel the need to see people that often and so it can feel to others as if they’re ghosting them. Maybe you are one of them!
How to deal with being ghosted?
If you’ve been ghosted, there are a few things you can do to try and deal with the situation. First of all, it’s important to remember that it’s not always personal. The person who ghosted you might be going through something themselves, and they’re not able to deal with the situation in a healthy way. But sometimes, it’s just a cowardly and immature move.
If you don’t hear from them again, feel happy that they saved you from all the drama that you might have had with them. It’s better to be ghosted than to be with someone who’s not ready for a relationship and gives you the feeling of not being welcomed in their lives constantly.
Try to focus on the positive aspects of the situation and on all the other people in your life who do care about you. Don’t dwell on what might have been. Instead, focus on what is and be thankful for it.
And if the person comes back to you in a sincere way, trying to apologize and make things right, then you can decide if you want to give them a second chance. But remember that they might just be doing it because they feel guilty. And if they don’t show any sincere remorse or try to change their behavior, then it’s probably not worth your time.
The lives of those who have been ghosted
Ghosting can have a serious impact on the lives of those who have been affected by it. It can cause them to feel anxious, depressed, and even paranoid. And it can make them question their self-worth and wonder what they did wrong. Many also get trust issues because of it.
If you’ve been ghosted, it’s important to remember that it’s not your fault. The person who did it is probably either very immature or going through something themselves, and they’re not able to deal with the situation in a healthy way.
If you need help, talk to your friends and family about it, or in need, seek professional help. Your mental health is important, and it’s essential to know that you’re worthy of love and respect, no matter what anyone else might say or do.
Most of the time, you can speak of ghosting after a week or two. It is a cowardly and immature move that can have a serious impact on the lives of those who have been affected by it. If you’ve been ghosted, it’s important to remember that it’s not your fault. You’re worthy of love and respect, and not everyone is like that. Try to trust again!
The truth about dating: Books you need to read
If you’re looking for advice on how to have more success when it comes to dating, then you’ll want to check out these reads. Each can teach you something different about the process, from being more confident in yourself to reading other people’s signals correctly. So whether you’re just starting or have been dating for a while and could use help, check out these titles.
- Boundaries in Dating: How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Relationships
- Love: The Psychology of Attraction: A Practical Guide to Successful Dating and a Happy Relationship
- Seriously, This Is Online Dating?: How to Love Yourself Harder and Date Smarter
- Single, Dating, Engaged, Married: Navigating Life and Love in the Modern Age
- Things You Should Already Know About Dating, You F*cking Idiot
Janet Smith
Janet Smith is a freelance writer who writes about psychology, relationships, and dating. She has always been interested in understanding the human brain and how it affects our …
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